A friend in India once told me that your thirties are when you make happen what you prepared for in your twenties.
So with that, here is the second of a five-part series to celebrate the past 30 years and list 30 lessons that I’ve learned – and, more importantly, need to keep learning for the next 30 plus years.
Each post will feature lessons for the mind, body, soul, work, life, and love. Please share your own in the comments section as everyone has their own experiences to share!
Mind: Always Stay on the Bright Side of Life
It’s easy to get bogged down sometimes and see the world through a darker depressing lens. When this happens, take a moment and turn that frown upside down. Whether you see the glass half-empty or half-full is all in your mind. You have the power to turn on the light in your life so don’t waste your time in the dark.
Body: Get Enough Sleep
Just like milk does a body good, so does sleep. As a night owl, who is trying to be a morning person, I find it hard to get the recommended seven to nine hours of sleep every night.
Some of the reasons why sleeping will help me reach my goals are improved memory, more creativity, and reduced stress. Studies show that sleep gives your mind time to process memories which also results in increased creativity. It also lowers your stress levels and helps control blood pressure.
Soul: If it’s Weighing You Down, Let it Go
Throughout our lives, we acquire a lot of stuff both physically and emotionally. Just like the annual spring purging of those t-shirts from college that you will never wear, it’s important to purge anything weighing you down spiritually because it will physically weigh you down.
Whether it’s with a person or an event in your life, whatever happened is in the past so do what you need to do to make peace and move on… Preferably sooner than getting rid of those boot-cut pleather pants in your closet from high school (I owned a pair. There are pictures, but thankfully this was before digital.)
Work: Speak Up or Shut Up
If you have an issue at work than speak up about it or shut up about it. I realized that some of my time at work was spent speaking to others about problems instead of informing the big bosses. This allowed my frustrations to only build instead of addressing the issues and going from there. With that in mind, I’m learning to have those hard conversations or let it be, let it go, and shut up.
Life – Go With the Flow
On one of the main bathing days at the Kumbh Mela, the largest spiritual gathering in the world, I found myself walking with 36 million pilgrims to bathe in the intersection of India’s sacred rivers. On foot, the masses moved like flowing water. There were stumbles, but as long as you went with the flow, you got where you wanted to go.
This message has been hammered into me this past year by the universe. As a recovering Type A personality and an avid planner, I have to find a way to balance being prepared and being in the present. The path is already there, you just have to walk and follow the signs along the way.
Love – Be Honest
Be honest with your partner and be honest with yourself about your relationships. Connect with how you feel and let it guide you This is really a lesson that I need to learn as my smile is my shield. While I’m truthful, I don’t talk about my feelings because once words are out there, you can’t take them back. Regardless, I need to put more out there and writing this is a step forward.
What do you think about the list so far? Stayed tuned for more things to remember in my 30s as March 23rd quickly approaches.